Thanks. I'm trying to get a grip on the issues I'm dealing with in this situation. My mother WILL NOT find a way to get him in long term care which is what he needs - in my opinion. She's quit talking to me over my responses regarding him like my suggesstion that even a halfway house with day treatment would be more beneficial and leave him more accountable, than living with someone who needs to think he's getting better. It's a complete calling out on the BS factor - if he were around people that don't care if he makes it, they're going to be more likely to call him on his BS.

I feel horrible as I went off on my grandmother this morning for sending my sister in law (yes, his wife but she doesn't see she owes him anything at this point which is another crazy maker for me) money. My bro and his wife have lived off my family for years now. Well, not lived but used funds from my family to clean up their messes.

I'm starting to feel like Ferris Buelers crazy sister running around and trying to tell everyone what's really going on..... The solution, as far as I can see it is:

I need to stand my ground that I am not willing to participate in this mess any longer - EVER. I've told them before but I keep getting sucked back in.......

I know I should be somewhat concerned about his well being since he "has a disease" but honestly, he makes me want to puke.

Open to suggestions here if someone is seeing something I don't. I know my perspective is slightly skewed.