Brian offers great advice...porn is a substitute,,an illusion,,unreal..it works with fantasy and does offer a form of control...

But it is primarily selfish when used alone and in secrecy.

I remember when Paul Newman was asked about his long term marriage and how it managed for over 50 years when so much temptation was about...

He said..

" Why go out for hamburger,,when I have steak at home?"

I'm sorry you feel like hamburger...

With care,

Lenny