For me personally because of my past stuff I can only see women pdocs & women therapists & they both hug me at the end of the sessions & I'm not a hugger type as I never got the "right kind" of physical love expressed in my childhood. I hate being hugged or touched in general, but it is such a, gosh, I don't even know the words--soothing?? Something I have never experienced before. Validating, accepting & no strings tied to it...

But I don't ever feel like I need "more" from my T. If I do, I just quit going to her. I have been through about 5 T's in the last 2 years. Had an OD 2 years ago so I am actively pursuing aggressive treatment & help (meds adjustments--bipolar 1--& psychological treatment in indiv. & group therapy). Hey, I'm not wasting my time, money & ins. co. allowed visits (30--have exhausted them now--paying out of pocket) if I'm not seeing concrete progress.

I'm 54 & I don't have time to waste lamenting my childhood & all that. I know it was crappy, but I need help in getting out of that & learning how to live a quality life NOW. The DBT is really helping with that.--Suzy