It sounds like a really unhealthy situation and I think your instinct to try and pull yourself out of it, is good. But that's hard to do. You have to set really clear boundaries and stick to them.

You might want to see iff there's an alanon meeting in your area. It's for friends & family's of alcoholics to help them deal with the alcoholic in their life. I've heard really good things about alanon.

--splitimage