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Originally Posted by SpottedOwl
Children who are raised by narcissists learn that in order to get love, they must forget about their own needs and attend to the needs of the narcissist.
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In my case it was more like being
forced to not attend to my own needs, or even know that I had a right to them.
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... remember that you have a choice. As kids we may not have had a choice, but as an adult we absolutely have a choice.
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My sense that I had no choice extended far into adulthood, and is present to some extent even today. I remember her asking sometimes what we children wanted, and then if we said something she did not like, she would tell us that we did not want what we had just said that we wanted. It was dangerous for me to make
any choice that my mother did not approve of. I think I learned that it was dangerous even to
think about it.