Angie, what you stated is exactly why I think this person's beliefs are wrong. I posted a rebuttal to the thinking that self-esteem is earned.

Maybe Etienne hasn't come back because the "water has gotten too hot," you think? Maybe someone is going to interpret that statement as mean, but I don't know how else to say it... well... maybe they can't back up what they say; maybe their belief has been shaken? I, for one, am not going to worry about it anymore.