(((candybear))) thanks for sharing your experience.
May I suggest on behalf of us both that you slap the crap out of anyone who says "oh, you're still young, you can have more"?
yes! it's like belittling the lost child, like they were an object among others, like you can replace a stuffed toy with another one. you just can't replace a child. a human being. even animals can't be replaced, how could children be?
how rude.hehe. that's all i wanted to say.

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