Thank you guy's. Seems like T doesn't even think marriage counseling will work. She has not ever brought it up. Her exact words are (I think if you get away from hubby you will be just fine) I love him but if we didn't have kids I would be out no doubt! Haven't you ever loved someone even though your not still together they will always have a special place in your heart? Well that would be my hubby. He can be so nice and loving and then fly off the handle if I say the wrong thing.Example we went to the Gym and he left corn on the cob boiling on medium and half way into my work out he anounces we need to leave the corn might boil dry!!!!!!!!!!! I SAID THAT WAS DUMB TO LEAVE IT ON MEDIUM. I was mad because our smoke detectors go off when we shower they are sensitive. We live in an apartment bld with lots of kids/elderly. He went off on me saying I am being disrespectful to him etc.. I do know he can see his kids but he can't be trusted to follow through with their asthma medicine,etc.. once it was raining and they were at MC Donalds and he left them at the curb and went to get the car. The 18 month old was screaming when she saw her Papa leave for the car without her and she ended up in the middle of the parking lot in the rain screaming. My hubby expected my almost 5 yr old autistic son to hold her hand while he went to get the car.That makes me nervous. Anyway I know we all have our problems.