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With my own present therapist, he wants people to be well. He is always doing things, being "helpful", giving advice, to "improve" his clients. That is, I think he does not just wish wellness for them, he needs them to be well. He needs them to be well so they can provide him with the security and approval that he did not get from his own parents.
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There are some bad apples that are therapists, and to be honest some of the reports that I have read on this board have shocked me when it comes to some therapists behavior toward patients. Bad apples tend to leak into every profession, but are quite damaging when done by people who are psychologists, other therapists, psychiatrists, and psychiatric nurse practitioners and the like. Usually this variety are taught by bad teachers and learn bad habits.
However, I do have to challenge your ideas a bit, because you offer no evidence as to why you believe that your therapist is trying to "fix" you because of your belief that he did not get approval and security from his own parents. What indicates your belief, other than his desire to be helpful and to "improve" his clients?
It could very well be true, but without any facts to support this claim, it is likely that it is simply an erroneous belief on your part. Most therapists do not delve into details about how they feel about their own childhood and life experiences (to the extent that runs as deep as the clients disclosure that is). If one ever does, I suggest you run for the hills and not stick around to be your therapist's therapist.
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Similar things have happened in my life repeatedly. Other therapists have wanted me to take care of them. They have not seen this about themselves and have denied it and have been willing that I should suffer instead of them having to recognize their own fears.
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Are you sure you aren't just jumping to conclusions based on some sort of expectation you have that they will fail you in this regard? How do you know that your hypothesis, that your correlation---is caused by their own unresolved feelings toward their parents? Maybe you do have evidence that you didn't mention here? I also don't know if your saying that most therapists have some kind of unresolved issues as a reason for being a therapist? Therapists don't do very well as therapists for very long if they haven't already learned how to cope with whatever therapy interfering emotions, thoughts, and behaviors they might not have effectively dealt with.
I find it very odd, and if true (and not a cognitive distortion of some sort), I find it very disturbing that most of your therapists have wanted you to take care of them. Have you met many other people who have/are gone/going through therapy who have had similar experiences with their therapist? Have they come to similar conclusions, or are your repeat experiences unique regarding therapists turning the tables on you?
I'm certainly not discounting your concerns, as it is quite possible that you got the run of the bad apples-- and in that case I hope you stop seeing the one you have currently before they cause more damage. What are your thoughts on this?