This should probably be in a private message, but I am feeling crabby and putting it out to the world.

Vett, have you ever heard the concept "carrying a torch"?

It is entirely up to you to put the damn thing down and get on with your life.

You must not be reading what you write because you have made it more than clear on many occasions that your ex is just that, EX. Ex as in "history", as in "it's over baby", as in "get over it".

If you want to self-flagellate, go for it big guy, spank yourself silly. But don't expect it's going to help you improve your life or help you find any new love opportunities. All you're going to get is a rosey red butt and it hurts to sit down. You show it to anyone and they are going to laugh at you.

There is a sign on a co-workers desk:

Insanity
Doing the very same thing
Over and over again,
And expecting to see
A different result.

Wherever you go, there you are