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Old Oct 02, 2008, 07:24 PM
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IT IS ABOUT TO GET REALLY PERSONAL BELOW:

I am sorry your breast size makes you so insecure. I sort of know the feeling, but it's a little different for me. My breasts aren't small, but I am really insecure about them, anyway. Most of the women I know were embarassed and felt really......weird....about their breasts growing up when they had larger ones or developed early. My breasts never bothered me this way, really. For one thing, the people who actually talked about them were usually adult females, and not in any creepy way. I found it nosey and a tad rude, but that's about it. Besides that, I didn't mind if people noticed them. I just had a different mindset about it than most women I've spoken to. I liked it if people noticed them. I liked guys and I liked my breasts- for awhile.

But very soon- in middle school (7th or 8th grade), I think, but no later than freshman year of highschool- I stopped liking them. It became evident that they were VERY saggy. Also, I wasn't satisfied with the size. I wanted bigger. A bit greedy perhaps. But mostly, it bothered me that they sagged so much. People started to make rude comments, as well, about them being too big or being saggy. Also, when breasts get bigger they tend to show veins. Mine do somewhat, but I show veins in some other areas as well due to the type of skin I have.

Ever since somewhere in middle school I guess, I have not liked my breasts. I have been REALLY self conscious about the sag, unhappy with the veins, and now the skin is bothering me, as well. I have large pores on my face, and it seems to be happening to a lesser degree on my breasts. I feel gross. Because of the size of my breasts, the skin is thin, so it is easy to pinch or scratch it to a degree that doesn't seem like that much, and then end up with blood bruises, if you know what I mean. Little bloody spots beneath the skin. Also, I have had stretch marks on them since I've grown them. Even before they were this big, but due to weight gain and loss, its worse, as is the sagging. My Guess is, when you have small breasts and lose weight, you are less likely to lose so much in the chest, and get stretch marks. Not so when you are larger.

I understand why you want larger breasts, but honestly, it's my guess that most men pefer smaller breasts to these sag bags I'm carrying around! Plus, there is nothing unnattrative about smaller breasts! A lot of guys like them. Some prefer them. And I hear smaller breasts are usually more sensitive. This can be bad in some ways cause they're more sensitive to unpleasant stimuli, BUT it is also good in other ways since it could prob. feel more pleasurable, as well! Because your breasts are smaller, they will prob. age better than mine. I have had old woman breasts since shortly after I got breasts. You are also less likely to have such thin, easily bloodied skin, noticeable veins, etc., I'd guess.

A lot of men think smaller breasts are attractive. Sure, they may be less noticeable under clothes, but when the clothes come off, they are as good as anyone's! Also, keep this in mind- you can wear some really attractive clothes I could never wear without embarassment, and I mean clothes that would raise a man's blood pressure if you know what I mean. You know those tops that are cut WAY low down the very middle, going down past the breasts? I've seen some movie stars with them on, but I also found some for sell online. I'd love to wear a dress like that, but my breasts sag so much, I'd be embarrassed. I couldn't wear a bra under one because it would show in the middle where the split is, and while I normally don't mind if some of my bra shows, with this outfit, in that spot, I just don't think it would be attractive- but you could wear it, and the outfit is HOT. Also, I saw a woman online once- wish I knew who and where- who said she wore super high cut tops that women with larger breasts couldn't get away with. I assume she means the looser kinds, like cut off tees, cause the ones that hug, we could wear. But you know, I was a little envious of her ability to wear those tops! Also, while I will wear bras with the straps showing with a tank, I'd prefer not to wear them with strappless tops. You can wear a strapless, sleeveless top without a bra, and feel comfortable and look perky. Point is, if you feel they are less noticeable in outfits, captialize on the hot, attention grabbing stuff you can wear with small ones that you can't with the big ones.

What people never say about sag is this- it's not only a self esteem issue, it's a comfort issue. It feels bad physically when they sag, and I often have to readjust them to feel good.

It is difficult to get bras to fit good for any larger breasts, as well. And larger breasts do hurt the back. Also, they do get in the way sometimes. I mean, larger breasts have some benefits, such as less sensitivity for certain unpleasant things, and mine don't hurt as bad when people elbow them now as they did when they were smaller, BUT looks wise, I think my self esteem is no better for them, hanging as they do.

Sure you can get breast implants, but PLEASE really check it out. While I take some moral issues with this mass rush to surgically alter all of our breasts, I honestly wouldn't judge you if you had surgery because I understand. I know the feeling. I want a breast lift in a way, and may get one, yet. So, I would never judge you. But you need to know what you're getting into. You can lose sensitivity in your breasts. Sometimes partial, sometimes total, sometimes temporarily, sometimes permanantly. I THINK during first time insertion they can go through your navel or armpits, so you won't have to worry about breasts scars the first time, but implants are not permanant. They will need replacing. When they are replaced, I think they must come out through your breasts. Again, not sure on this, since I was more focused on a lift than the implants. Do your own research. But if they come out through your breasts, you will likely scar, and you may feel as self conscious about the scarring as the size. Also, you need a good surgeon to make them look natural, and sometimes when things are botched they can go REALLY badly. If you enlarge them much, you will prob. sag more. Again, this will likely make you self consious. You may end up preffering small breasts to saggy ones. There are many other issues to keep in mind, as well, so please make sure it is worth the risk to you. Also, remember, your current partner may not like the implants. I don't know if that's an issue for you or not. Keep in mind if you DO get it done, to check out the credentials and previous work of the surgeon, make sure it's clean, professional, and a well done job. It is best to be aware of the MANY different types of implants. Diff. sizes, different materials, different shapes, different placements (above muscle, partially under muscle, and completely under all the muscles), etc. Pick one that is best for you.

Good luck. I hope you learn to love yourself, and I hope you see, big breasts aren't exactly better- just different.