Thanks everyone~
Sigh.
I had a nice connected session and I went with my gut, telling T what my thought processes were during my crash and the connections I made. He listened intently, offered a few interpretations but mostly just listened. I really had a solid sense of his being there and more importantly, ME being there.
I didn't really get into the "needy" discussion per se --it wasn't relevant or even necessary. However, I was able to tell him about how much I was searching for him during the rupture and how difficult it was for me to not connect. I really feel like he understood what I was saying. That's when he asked if I felt in touch with myself now.
Next week he won't be around on Thursday and we might do a longer session on Monday. I said to him, "But I might hate you by then." He said, "it could go either way." LOL
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He can't just sit there and give me intimacy - it requires something from both of us.
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Yes, earthmama--exactly what we did tonight.
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.give it time, relationships take and need tim
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So true Mouse, so very true. If I look back to two years ago, I know that now I am a different person. Then I didn't really even undersetand the concept of a truly intimate relationship. It took two years to get here--I can't imagine where I'll be in two more.
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Hi Charlotte, so you think that he is just not comfortable getting too close when you really need him?
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It could be but I'm not certain that's exactly it Sannah. I think it's more like he can't find me either because I am morphing all over the place.
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Are you dissociating your needs again
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No. By talking through this rupture I am addressing my needs. I think the fact that I dissociated with my Mom is why it's so hard.
