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Originally Posted by Simcha
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Wow, this was a really good post. It sounds like you've began to break through a wall that's held you back for most of your life. It's really difficult to talk about things like this with anyone I would think, because the pain is very difficult to control once it is let out. However, now that you are with a good T that can go with you through this mess, you don't have to worry about it becoming overwhelming and being left alone to deal with it this time.
Out of curiosity, and please forgive my ignorance if you have addressed this before--but is your birth mother still living, and if so, would you ever want to meet with her? I only ask because my nephew is adopted, (now age 16), but his mother passed on so he doesn't have the option. I'm happy to report that he is really well adjusted, but then he never had to hide his feelings from his adoptive mother like you did. He has also known since the beginning that he was adopted.
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I had searched for my bmother, but she came from Ireland and the adopted chld has no rights to search in Ireland..the adoption was a very dodgy arranagment so there was little paperworks even thought I had found my original birth cert I still can find no trace of her...found a half brother who gave me the photo of her but she had left him also and he had no clues nor wished to know...I guess if she was still alive she'd be 75 now...if I Had the money I would have hired a someone professional to find her...but alas it seems this is the way it is to be...I do now consider myeslf lucky to have least got a photo and to at least met another sibling...and know I wasn't told from the beginning I was adopted so the yrs before I was told would have been emotionally confusing for me without having a nutcase for an adoptive mother
to add to the confusion...I know most adoptions are fine...those that aren't end up posting on message boards LOL! sorry my humour.