I had thought and hoped that it would get easier in time, and it had til this year when my eldest daughter was in hospital on the anniversary... that was tougher than I could ever have imagined- being back in that environment on that day. Normally we make it a celebration- a party for him and make a cake, sing 'happy birthday' etc. That way both my girls can be involved, and while it is a bittersweet time we make it a happy time.