Welll, you know and I know and the world knows there is no such thing as perfection.....and once we feel safe and secure inside, we can withstand others imperfections...we dont feel as if we will be destroyed...we know imperfections can be worked through and are survivable..but when we have these fears within ourselfs..when we our selfs are not perfect and of course can never be.. we give them away....and then they come back to us as even more powerfully to us...we are wanting guarentees that we will never have to experience someone elses mistakes or errors because we haven't mastered our own..so when we come across someone elses humaness, it seems much disturbing to us that it necessarly has to be...as long as things are good enought, that will be good enought...when we face our own limitiations then we can deal with the limitations around us?.....dunno I could be wrong, but this has been my experience.....its your own perfection you are craving for and that will never be...