Obviously, I only get a snapshot of your situation by reading your post, but it seems to me that a T should not be pushing you to make a decision (unless perhaps you are in a dangerous situation and unable to help yourself). That decision is yours to make - all your T should be doing is guiding you to better understanding the reality of your situation with your husband. Have you been able to explain to your T the effects her opinions are having on you?

As for the reactions on moving overseas to the middle east. I would like to say that although there are middle eastern countries with strict rules regarding marriage, rights of women and guardianship of children, this is not the case for all countries (for example, Oman and most of the Emirates, such as Dubai and Abu Dhabi). It depends from which country your partner is from. If you decide to move, you really need to do your research beforehand by contacting your embassy and getting in contact wiht ex-pat organisations - make sure you will be safe there and will have the same rights you have in the US or at least rights you can live with. It's hard moving to another country and adjusting to a different culture. If you are already having a difficult time in your relationship now, the added stress of being in an unknown place, the isolation that will entail, could but a tremendous strain on you and your husband.

I hope you are able to work through all this without feeling pressured by your T and figure out what's best for you and your family.

Just remember, you're in control - the choice is yours - try not to feel trapped by others or by your situation.

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