((Soliaree))

I completely get your statement about the intensity. That is what gets in my way.

Sigh. I think that you might be onto something with respect to the relationship between no touching and as you say--neediness. I have to believe that being needy is a good thing, a normal state of being. We are born needing our mothers. Therefore, how could T look at neediness with disgust? Are you SURE that he is disgusted?

Maybe he just doesn't know what to do in those moments. That's what I think of my T now. Inept yes--disgusted--no.