Getting out is definitely an important step. I got out and started a fresh new life somewhere else. Thought I was don't with all that--free. My only recommendation to others is...Just don't forget where you've been, otherwise you might inadvertently end up there again. I my case its a totally different problem but the resulting relationship dynamic feels very familiar. Only no its not my mother this time, its me. I think for us to truly break the cycle we have to remain alert and vigilant and in some cases help.