thankyou so much for your replies...
i went back and tried to talk about it but just cried...eventually after getting it out...she tried to explain that what she meant is that even if i was the most beautiful girl, wearing my underwear in the house or even showering or being overly loving towards someone who was my grandfather.....that none of it is my fault...but he may believe i was asking it for being those things....
it took along time for her to explain it...and i still believe that it is something not even worth bringing up becasue it will cause so much confusion as it did...i still don't even understand what she has explained is supposed to help me in anyway...because even if a child is pooorly dressed or even dirty from playing...will not stop a predator...for it is none of those beautiful things...that draws a man...it is the child and the child alone...beautiful plain black white australian amercian chinese...it doesnt matter to those peices of #(&(%%#.....
do i make sense...