unfortunately that is the way most marriages are that I see. women are expected to do all that and then some it seems. no it is not fair. talk to him about how much of the responsibility you are really doing. sometimes you just have to show them how much you really are doing and how little they are doing. you too need to step back and let him do his own stuff. his meetings and his career are his hon. we as women tend to mother our husbands alot of times. talk to him hon.