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Originally Posted by Mouse_
I had searched for my bmother, but she came from Ireland and the adopted chld has no rights to search in Ireland..the adoption was a very dodgy arranagment so there was little paperworks even thought I had found my original birth cert I still can find no trace of her...found a half brother who gave me the photo of her but she had left him also and he had no clues nor wished to know...I guess if she was still alive she'd be 75 now...if I Had the money I would have hired a someone professional to find her...but alas it seems this is the way it is to be...I do now consider myeslf lucky to have least got a photo and to at least met another sibling...and know I wasn't told from the beginning I was adopted so the yrs before I was told would have been emotionally confusing for me without having a nutcase for an adoptive mother  to add to the confusion...I know most adoptions are fine...those that aren't end up posting on message boards LOL! sorry my humour. |
(((mouse)))
It's quite possible she is still alive, and if I had the same situation you did, my curiosity would kill me if I didn't search. I can't imagine the psychic pain you are feeling, as I think it would overwhelm me.
Have you ever done any genealogy research? Save your money and do it yourself; it's easy once you get the hang of it. Genealogy research is an EXCELLENT way to find living relatives. The first place I would start again is the half-brother. He had her picture... did he get it from her, and if not, who? Secondly, there might be writing on the back. Ireland is not as difficult as you think to research--- you don't need to search adoption records to do so. Everyone born in Ireland is registered with a church, whether they are religious or not. The church registers are public record, and generally speaking it would be one of the churches in the area of residence that you would be registered at.
I would be VERY happy to help you in any way I can, be it by searching myself, or giving you the resources so that you can do it. Email or message me any time--genealogy research happens to be what I am very good at, and believe me, if you think hunting down the living is difficult, think about how it is to hunt down the dead!@!
And btw... I have a nutcase BIOLOGICAL mother. Maybe you are actually more fortunate than you think; at least you don't have the genetic code of your adoptive mother to contribute to your quandry!!!