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Originally Posted by pachyderm
I am not trying to assign "badness" to therapists that I think are not doing their jobs as well as I think they should. I do have strong feelings about it at times, but that does not mean they are "bad".
I think I was sensitized to this especially by my first therapist, who declared to me the last time we met that "I have never been treated as badly by anyone before in my entire life". That is, he (the doctor) was telling me (the patient) that I had treated him badly. In other words, I was the bad parent and he was the injured child.
I do think this reversal takes place to a lesser extent in many such interactions.
I may be jumping. I am very sensitive, because of my history, to attempts to control under the guise of "helping". I think lots of people here share similar sensitivities. I find it very hard to realize that attempts to control come not from a powerful person but from someone who does not feel powerful.
I am not sure I said MOST therapists. I also think that some therapists can continue to practice and do damage which is not recognized by their peers or themselves for a long time.
I think it is a matter of degree, and that I am very sensitive to it.
Not unique, no. For instance, I read once a patient's account who said he was told by his therapist that he would die if he left her.
I think I am unusually (pathologically?  ) sensitive to the condition. I do not necessarily think of them as "bad apples". I think of them as being pretty ordinary by the standards of present day therapy -- and that is not good enough in severe cases. |
((((((((((pachy))))))))))
I would absolutely despise your former therapist who told you that you were "treating
them badly" ---You know, that would really unnerve me. My bad experiences seem to be with psychiatrists, not therapists--and oh yes, it can be very damaging and I have had thoughts where I wanted to do things I don't want to mention on this board -because of it. And I'm one of the allegedly "less pathological" and more "normal" patients! lol--
I think that you ended up with a really bad therapist, and he was covering up his insecurities as indicated by his defensiveness and inappropriate attack on you (for his failure). What did you say/do in return to that ******** statement of his?
I am VERY sensitive to bad therapists and bad psychiatrists and bad doctors of all flags myself. I actually don't consider it "sensitivity", but I know that less educated (about the system) people would consider me sensitive. Rather, I am ultra AWARE. I find many people are far too permissive when it comes to being "guided" or "helped" by who they see as an authority figure who because of their title, degree, educational level, money, or other social status---as valid, accurate, and to be obeyed even in the face of obvious logical flaws.
I actually find it frustrating that more people do not take more control of themselves, and instead let this type of jerk tell them who they think they are--when they have their heads so far up their assses that they couldn't tell you if it was daylight outside or not.
At least you know what is ******** and what is not.
---Please forgive my abnormally excessive use of profanity---