Sannah, You are sort of right when I called him dumb. But I never said he was dumb it was what he did was dumb. Child development taught me that you can tell your child I love you but hate your behavior. I thought that is what I did. Maybe not. Brian It takes a big person to admit their faults. Good for you for seeking help! I do agree with you Simcha as well. It's just I am scared to end this relationship. I did not mention my husband is a Palestinian and Muslim which adds fuel to the flame. He wants us to move to the middle east next October when he retires. My T is talking to me about this and all I can say is if I can deal with today I will be happy October is a life time away.
P.s we been together for 11 years.