Just this week found out that my husband HAD a relationship (no sex) with his secretary. They kissed quite a lot, e-mailed and phoned. He thought he was in love with her and told her that he loved her. After a few weeks he realized that he wanted to be with me and ended it. Her husband told me what they had done. I knew that something had happened, but my husband wouldn't tell me. What do I do? I love him and we had what I thought was a happy life, and he had to spoil it all by chasing cheap thrills that weren't genuine feelings of love. How can we go on with our lives with me throwing this in his face every time he irritates me? I must add that this is the 2nd time in 15 years that something like this has happened, but last time another person wasn;t involve it was all via the internet.
Can anyone advise me on how to heal? He really is truely sorry, but how can I forgive him?