I'm also dealing with similar issues, my sexual identity has become fragmented, i some time fear I am gay, even though I pretty much know this is not true, I am very homophobic some times and feel uncomforatbvle arround gay men. I was once molested as a youth, and had some sexual experiemces with both girls and boys in my childhood. I am still a virgin because i've never gone all the way with a girl. I been addicted to porn since like 13 years old i actuall remember telling myself I love this stuff and will never need a real girl. around the age 12 or so i grew breast and have felt very unattrative to the opposite sex. what more can I say I started to meditate and i find this make your mind more quiet and peaceful, meditation might help u to. Take a look at centerpointe.com it make meditation easy. I;m also looking into therapy, because i am determind not to waste life I think it is a gift.