((((((((((((((((molly)))))))))))))) You're very brave. It's very possible that once your mom has time to reflect on what you said, she will come to understand how you feel. She also may already agree with you, but feel honor-bound to defend him--that happens a lot, especially in emotionally abusive relationships. You are not alone, even though it really feels like it. Set your sights on when he goes on holiday and start really formulating what you need to do to make it through day to day and also in the long run, to remove yourself from the situation. You have us all here, hon. You really do. Anytime. Remember how strong you are and how special.