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Originally Posted by PhoenixRising55
Hey Zen,
Are you close to this person? Do you consider her a friend? I ask this because you dont seem to want to hang out with her and if that is the case then you should tell her that...straight up... because by her response it seems to me that she sees through the "you have to do homework" thing and is asking for the truth of the matter....it seems to me that maybe she considers you more of a friend then you her?? I dont know if this helps at all..its just my opinion...Phoenix  |
Hi Phoenix
I have difficulties feeling close to my friend due to her OCD and strong type A personality. In addition, she has told me that she talks about me and other ppl at work. So, I don't feel that we have an authentic relationship built on trust and boundaries. She is on the other hand a very nice person but at times can be difficult to tolerate (OCD behaviors).
I just don't feel comfortable opening up to her anymore for the mere fact that she discloses somethings I tell her to other ppl.
And yesterday she didn't see a reason for respecting my boundaries and NEED to do homework and have private time.
I don't know....I feel clueless at this point....but I am glad that I stood up to her and set a boundary with her. She didn't like it at all.
So esstentially, I am friendless for the time being. Focusing on my academics and self-improvement.
Any additional comments, suggestions, insights, advice...is more than welcomed!
Zen888
