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Old Oct 04, 2008, 08:55 PM
ZeTeBu ZeTeBu is offline
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Please advise me because I am at a loss on what to do. I KNOW I need to act but where to start?

Recently my divorce was finalized after several year long custody battle which involved my ex having monitored visitation. My ex-husband is confined to a wheelchair but is financially well off. He has a serious problem with prescription drugs which was our main problem. I was a full-time caretaker. During the divorce, his family rally around him (as they should), but the result was a very long and difficult divorce and without their interference probably would have ended a lot sooner.

My son suffered a lot and my ex in retaliation to the divorce refused to see our son for several months. When my ex would call he would tell my son how he was suffering and couldn't sleep, etc. This made my son more stressed and confused.

Now my ex has overnight visitations and kept our son a month during the summer. Afterwards, my son started sleeping with the light light and the TV on. He's asked me several times to sleep in the bed with me. Before he left for summer break, I caught him on the internet watching videos of bare chested obese men shaking their bellies for several minutes. I check the computer history and apparently there are entire websites dedicated to this. It would be funny if it wasn't so scary.

I talked to him about it and explained that wasn't appropriate but even I wasn't sure if it was curiosity or erotic to him. My ex is very obese and I'm wondering it that has something to do with it.

Two days ago, I found more pictures that he download on his PSP. I didn't delete them because I planned to show them to his father. He doesn't really have any new games on his PSP so I hoped they were old pictures.

Yesterday, he started playing the PSP and then tried to take it in the bathroom. I don't allow hime to play any handheld games in the bathroom because it takes forever for him to come out but now I wonder if he had other intentions.

I'm scared to tell my ex because he is very bitter and is looking for an excuse to regain custody but at the same time I'm scared that I may really have a problem and need to get help.

What should I do?