Eh, Is this me or isn't that a rather narcissitic outlook? No one is born to just be with someone else and to expect that will only end in disappointment. Though some narc's can never change because they are almost into the sociopath end of the radar, believing that someone is truely "YOURS" isn't a healthy outlook either. I think perhaps some people are drawn to soicopaths because they want to change them, own them, mould them into their image....it takes 2 people to tango...I find as much as people do not wish to believe this that a co-dependent is as much in need of help and understanding as the narcissist? ...we are 2 people in a relationship and each bring something into it, be that good or bad...