I didn't ask you to flip a switch, I said it will take time. I understand that Vett. You have a safe place, it's here with us.
If someone doesn't agree with you then that is for them to decide and to step back or step out. It doesn't mean that you need to stop expressing yourself in whatever way you feel the need to. Of course sometimes we will try to make you see things differently but that can be very positive.
I always read your posts and I know you are struggling and that is normal. Your feelings are normal. You are trying to work thru them despite your depression and grief. That takes alot and it takes time. Give yourself the time. Dont shut yourself off or shut your feelings away. That will only set you running in a big circle.

I am having alot of difficulties of my own but it helps me alot to read others posts and try with whatever I have may it be understanding, comfort, a hug or the straight truth (what I believe it to be anyway). It helps me alot because it takes my mind off my own problems for awhile, gives me insite into something I may be feeling sometimes and it makes me feel like I can do something positive and caring despite my damaged self.
Heidu


The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin