Sweetie you aren't whining. You need to express what is going on and you're doing that.
It sounds like home isn't a space where your needs get met. That doesn't sound right to me!
Even if you are 'supposed' to be there you still have the right to have your needs met just the same as they do.
Let us know if we can help be a cheering support team for change to help improve the home situation.
Wishing rest for you. Safe rest for your tired soul. (((wantto)))