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Originally Posted by gravyssugar
Hello, I am new to forum and actually had joined because of my bipolar son...but I saw your post and wanted to reply to you.
I know exactly how you feel. My father abused me and my two half siblings. They never forgave him and didn't speak to him for over 20 years. I went through lots of therapy, but I finally decided that in order for me to be 'healthy' that I needed to move on. I 'forgave' him (the best way I could), but never forgot what he did. I knew that he would have to answer to God when he died and would pay for the damage that he caused us. Hope this helps, hang in there. 
Tracie |
My mother abused me growing up as well. When I went off to college I decided for some reason that I needed to forgive her so that I could move forward with my life, and I did. However, when I was living in another city it was easier because I didn't have to deal with her. That said, once I moved back it became much more difficult to deal with her. Let's just say that she can cause me to revert back to being a child just by a simple comment and my depression is triggered on a major level!
After I was diagnosed BP, I had a much more difficult time dealing with my mother, however. On some levels, I think it was because I confronted her once and she denied the behavior, the abuse. I still forgave her, but I still take issue with her current behavior. Because of that, I distance myself. I speak to her often but have not been in the house to see her in several years, and we live 10 minutes from each other. Actually, she is over my finances and has been for a while so those are some of the issues that have caused the recent rift.
Long story short, I think in order to move your life forward in a positive direction, you have to forgive because the abuser is then still in control somehow...not forget!
TJ
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