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Originally Posted by darkness89
I think I may have post traumatic stress disorder from the verbal abuse that I suffered from my Mom. She continues to do it to me to this day. Everytime I have to be around her I get anxious and defensive worrying about what she will say or do next. All day I worry that my house isn't clean enough for her or that I'm not doing what I should to take care of my kids right. Her cynical voices rings in my ears all day. How do I cope with this.? How do I live for me instead of this woman who seems to control me?
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I've been in your situation and I had to fully break off contact with my own mother. I had to stop being available to abuse.
Then in therapy I was able to start processing and healing. I still have to be vigilant, I need to practice good self care and grounding daily, but I'm no longer as hypervigilant as I was.
When I imagine verbal abuse as being like being physically hit, I understand that I have to get away from the abuse before I can really relax and heal.
I had to strongly choose life, my own life, and stay clear of abuse.
Therapy can also help with sorting out the details of how to take your stand and support yourself completely.