I don't know what it is that he isn't hearing you say. I'm glad he says he loves you. Maybe it's more about him than you right now? But to hurt so ... arrggghhh!

It won't be this way forever. You're catastrophizing right now, because it's feels so final and desperate. But this isn't the end of the world, it's not even the end of the story I'll bet. Things often can be worked out once the "freedom" is there. He may have needed to find that feeling before he can realize the situation.

Hang in there.