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Originally Posted by nonightowl
I agree with JBUG, that if you ever need to vent about family stuff, please PM me! This time of the year is the time I DREAD every year. Everyone does not have a family like a hallmark card! I agree with another user who said to say you can use the study time alone on the bus. Otherwise, you don't need to justify anything. GEEZ, you are not a child and they're acting like you are. "Go with your siblings." I get the guilt trip talk, "Why don't you visit more often?" Because it's uncomfortable, that's why. Because they still try to treat me like a child to be bossed around, because I can't truly open up and say what's REALLY going on in my life, and what I REALLY think, because we were never "that kind" of family. No warm, fuzzy feeling believe me. Just small talk. No hugs and kisses. Also, what I do is set a time limit on how long I'll stay, then GO.
I don't have much time at the moment to elaborate on this, but next time!
P.S. I like your user name too! 
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Thanks very much for your post...well, thanks to everyone of course, but you've really hit the nail on the head when it comes to my family (I suppose because it's so similar to yours).
I get along well enough with my parents, but only because I set strict limits on what I talk about. For example, when I was stuck in a job I hated and was planning to go back to school, I couldn't even bring up the subject with them. They never would have understood that I was sick of the tech industry and wanted a fresh start in humanities...they would have thought I was insane, I'm sure, and would have done everything they could have to discourage me. So I just had to do it and tell them the sketchy details. And look, it all worked out for me! Imagine that!
Like you said, it's all small talk with these people. And this is my
family, for crying out loud.
Anyway, I'm sending the mass e-mail out tomorrow telling everyone I'm taking the bus. Yes, I know e-mail is sort of cowardly, but allow me my baby steps.