Hi Janniebug,

It sounds like a good idea to see another neurologist for a consultation. I have daily migraines also, and am Topamax for them, so I can relate.

I used to be very overweight, too, and lost 100 pounds a few years ago. I am now at a healthy weight for me. I, too, have had to deal with doctor's comments about my weight in the past. I know it's a very tough thing, so I feel for you. I know you've had a longer journey with weight loss, and it sounds like you are still on that journey. Congratulations on the weight you've lost this far! I think most doctors would realize that you are in the middle of that process, you've made some wonderful progress (!), and you are continuing to work on it. It is extremely common for women to gain 1-3 pounds once a month (some women even gain a bit at ovulation); and as you say, the pounds come off again in a few days. This is very normal.

There is some logic to his encouragement about your weight loss, even though he isn't going about it very well. For many people, migraines have a hormonal connection, and for those of us who are overweight, there are more hormones floating around - which can make migraines worse and harder to control. But you are indeed working on this, and hopefully as you lose more weight, your migraines will improve, too. This was true for me. There are other things you may be able to do to help your migraines, like getting good sleep. Sometimes dietary changes can help, too, and hopefully this doctor discussed that. There are also things to try, like biofeedback training, which really help some folks and involve no medication at all.

I don't think it's related to his ethnic background. I've seen a variety of Indian doctors, and some of them were very kind. Some of them weren't, but that is true of doctors of all races and ethnic backgrounds! I think you just met one that wasn't a good match for you this time. Hopefully you'll find a neurologist next time that is a better fit for you. I'll be crossing my fingers.

Thinking of you,
ErinBear