Perna

I can see your point. I think I have been pressuring her, but is it wrong to talk about future plans for us?
I had a talk with her the other night on yahoo and she said she has to learn to love me again (We dated before I came into the military and then she got with another guy who was abusive and 2 years later she and I hooked back up and dated, engaged and married), and she said it is kinda fun.
The way I see it, is that I did not love her like I should have as a husband. The night before I left to go to Japan for the first time, I confessed it to her and that how sorry I was and I was going to make everything alright. It was like I had forgotten about my suspicions and I fell IN love with her again. Mind you I have always loved her but I think in a way because of the disappointments in the marriage, I fell out of love with her but still loved her. If that makes sense??
I think she understands it bc she said she doesn't realize how much I love her now and she felt this way towards me when we were married in the beginning and I took her and her love for granted (which I did ). It just frustrates me bc I am looking for some type of hope from her and I am not getting it. My friends think that she has already made the decision to leave me but does not want to tell me until I get home. And to be honest, sometimes I do think that.

Perna, so how can she make a big decision like this in only 2 or 3 weeks while I am home and show her that I have changed? I know it is alot to ask for and that is why I am trying to do everything in my power here to show her that I have changed. On the phone, she has started crying bc she thinks I am mad or upset at her and I just tell her nothing is wrong.
Perna I can also agree that she cannot just take my word that I am not going to yell at her. That is why I call her as much as I can. I do, however, in some letters express concearns I have, or questions that never get answered.
I have also told her that I will do whatever it takes for this marriage to come out fine. I know I am good for her. I support her in her career and want the best for her.

What do you guys think will stop us from staying together? I have asked her this question and have not gotten a response back. I want to eleminate these factors.