be a good friend to yourself now melpo.. you are not bad.. think of yourself as a student.. a lesson in life has been presented for you.. you are having some difficulty with the math right now.. step away from the problem and examine it as objectively as you are able.. temporarily detaching ourselves from the rest of our emotions allows us to do some scientific study on ourselves..

be your own friend first.. see yourself as a beautiful growing project that is still being created.. take an active role in the creation and add the ingredients that give you the feelings of contentment and joy you desire.. those emotions can actually be turned on and off like a light switch.. use imagery to imagine a babies smile.. do you feel something warm there?

let yourself feel those feelings.. those are the good ones..

find friends who find ways of enjoying without harm... dont harm yourself, dont harm others... take good care of all parts of your life... build up ways to smile and laugh each day and take at least a minute for that each day, even if it is hard.. when we find ourselves in shadows sometimes we have to make our own light.. you can do it... sending hope ...