Good post.
To me, it seems a little like a private club or something. I can understand why one would want their group to be private, I can see both sides, I just think on a site of this nature, it causes more harm than help. When something is private, it's only natural to wonder what's going on it it.
For me, it can spark feelings of paranoia. It's like when, in school, you'd see two people gossiping in the hall- when you walk by, you wonder if they were talking about you. I am certain nothing of this nature goes on in any of the social groups, but it still is a feeling that comes up in me.
Respect to everyone.
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Originally Posted by Orange_Blossom
Speaking only for myself and the feelings this thread brought up for me, I can honestly say it has nothing to do with contributions or money. I am a contributor, yet I was/am offended.
It has more to do with exclusion, secrecy, and entitlement issues from my past, as well as equality and matters of respect in the here and now.
Victims of abuse, physical, sexual, verbal, domestic, whatever, frequently experience feelings of shame, guilt, isolation, powerlessness, embarrassment, and inadequacy. And that is what it stirred up in me.
I know this is my own stuff. I own it fair and square. If I didn't have issues like this, I wouldn't be seeking support from a mental health forum in the first place.
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