The thing that i have found that helps me which is a very new tool is 1. talking to a caring person about it 2. letting that little girl or adult whoever was hurt have a voice and get comfort 3. surrounding yourself with things that feel good and smell good. I am starting to learn and very very very new to learning this and I have not worked out all the kinks yet is that when i have body memories my body is trying to tell me something. I need to let my body talk and speak and accept comfort. It is very very very hard to do. It doesn't always work either. I'm very very very new to this tool. The part about feeling dirty is common, and I'm still working on that i think I am heading in a direction of separating myself from the person. I am not dirty and gross and the person who did this is the one who is. I again am very new to this also and not sure if it will work but thats what I am thinking and learning. I have very good T's and when I need them to talk to that little girl i can call them. My reg T tells me any time I need to get rid of the little girl for a while she will be happy to take her. She talks to her, and says your OK I'm sorry that happened to you. I know it sounds so stupid and dumb and embarrassing and stuff but it kinda works. My t has to talk over me saying shut up this is stupid and dumb and she talks over it to the little girl. I know how this sounds it sounds cheesy and stuff but I am telling you this because its helping. I wouldn't tell this to the gas station guy or my neighbor but when someone who is suffering its worth the embarrassment of sharing.