Never mind the e-mail you saw...you should have had a serious talk with him after his myspace behaviour.

When someone's not being honest with you about their feelings, you have to make them honest. Tell them how you feel and get them to do the same. People do this sorts of things your boyfriend is doing because they don't want to face how they really feel, whatever that it.

Don't be too pessimistic just yet. You've been going out for a long time and he might not have his head on straight. If it comes down to being with you or not being with you (and ending all his on-line shenanigans), he very well might make the choice you want him to. Although after you hear his true feelings you might choose a different path yourself.

The point is to talk. 11yrs is a long time, but put that out of your mind for the moment.