Something instant...is there something you can carry in a back pack...a rubbing stone...or any kind of fidget that could cause a pause in the thought process...grabbing some paper and writing down everything at that moment that is making you get irritated and angry...I usually make sure it shreaded when I'm done...

For those big days...find a way to work out...

I'm glad that you see yourself as still "extremely loving, caring person"...that is important to always remember...