Hi Becky, if you are not ready for this is there any way that you can stop her now from coming over? You can find other ways to meet that mothering need. For one there is therapy and then you can learn how to do it for yourself once you are ready. You don't need to keep trying to get what you need from people who will never give it to you. You are not wrong for any of your feelings. You have all your feelings for very good reasons...