Hi again Rapunzel. With good child development a parent allows the child to always do whatever they are capable of so that they can become competent and then build healthy self-esteem based on this (plus healthy self-esteem is based on being loved and feeling valuable because of that). Also, when the parents don't interfere and allow the child to be a seperate being this builds healthy boundaries. Of course you understand what happened to you here. I am sorry. I think that you can recover, though. I have recovered from all sorts of development gone wrong things. Your parents raised you to be powerless because they needed that sense of control for whatever reason. So now you feel powerless because this is all that you have ever experienced. It is, however, just based on your experiences. It really isn't who you are. You can have other experiences now that will "train" you a different way.

I read your other post too on this subject. It seems that you are still taking in info from others concerning how you are doing. This seems to reinforce your powerlessness and that you can't do anything good enough. Everyone has an opinion and if you continue to suck those opinions in you will continue to feel like you do not have any power. Like I said when I answered your other post, you need to strengthen your own foundation and this will help you to feel empowered. That foundation is your self-worth and your boundaries. Increasing your self-worth will help you to feel stronger on the inside and stronger boundaries will help to protect you from outside info that you don't need.