Going together may be a good idea, but you really should continue your own, too. I agree that even though you have shut yourself off, please try to reconnect with someone you feel will be supportive and helpful. The supportive part will help immensely in your feelings but the helpful part may include taking your kids for the weekend once in a while so you can have your "cry time"--cry, scream, be depressed, let it out, so that during the week you can focus on healing. I wish you luck in getting help. (On a side note for the child support--I got so pissed off and my county stopped actively looking for offenders because they just didn't have the money for it--no one saw the irony of that. Anyway, I went through Friend of Court--ha!--Prosecuting Attorney for the County--ha!--then I wrote letters to my representative, congressman, governor, State Friend of the Court, State Child Ombudsman and State Attorney General. Don't know who I got through to but the State's Attorney final pursued the case and he was arrested in North Carolina and jailed until he could come up with a part of what he owed and if payments stopped he was back in jail until he made arrangements. Just a thought but the squeeky wheel thing works sometimes! If you need help writing l love writing letters like that!)