far from that, they were still strict but fair, they would try to take control but nothing would work, like for example they treid to make me clean my room... i was about 5ish, and my mom said if i dont clean it she would get a garbage bag and throw everything out. So i still didnt clean it and she got a garbage bag and started throwing everything out and i just sat there and watched, when she was done i picked up a toy, looked at her and said "you forgot this", ... they tried giving when i did good and taking away when i did bad and nothing worked....