You're right...it takes a ton of phone calls and letters 2 get anything done, it harder here in Florida, because my 2 ex-husbands live up there in Michigan. One had 2 counties where the amount kept going up, and then one day they ZEROED out both because he got sick and started receiving Social Security Disability and they say at S.S. that he didn't pay enough in2 the system so they won't take anything out of his checks 4 our daughter. He didn't pay when he was able though. My second husband, the father of my 6 year old son, they called earlier this week from the local child support office and said they were unsucessful serving him papers where he's listed his mother's address, but stays there rarely. He is able 2 pay, but won't because he is too selfish and I believe that he sees it as "sending me money" rather than his child. I've always been able 2 take care of the kids on my own but can't work because of poor health. I was in denial about the depression, I would tell myself that I was just frustrated about being ignored by our system, and it didn't matter if your recovering from surgery and have more health problems, our system won't give you assistance unless your working 40 hours a week or looking 4 work 40 hours a week. Then I took one of those tests that came up "severe depression". It's really hard 2 keep fighting a battle u can't win