I apologize for being a spoiler yesterday. This kept me awake for hours during the night and there were many things to write. It is all gone now. That's ok. I can be brief.

Vett, your story reminds me way too much of the bad story of a couple friends of mine and I seem to keep getting my emotions mixed up with the two stories. I am likely projecting bad images from my friends' situation onto yours.

I have what I call a mental scatoma about some social issues. Some things I simply don't get a clue. My wife says I am socially retarded. I have to agree. It is a certainty that there are some things going on, that are clear to most people, and beyond my grasp. Like a color blindness. It is said that things that bother you about other people are rooted in things that bother you about yourself. This is evidently a problem for me with Vett. I think I easily see some things that ought to be easy for him to see, too. He has as hard a time with his issues as I do with mine. My impatience with myself then extends to impatience with others when it strikes that chord. (Does this make any sense???)

I am going to back away from this forum for awhile, not 100%, but try to get back out of the saturation point, and just mostly be a lurker.

Wherever you go, there you are