Wow, kv!
I just posted and deleted an "apology" to Rapunzel for going off on one in chat, about something else that was bothering me. She might not have given it a second thought, but it was bothering me a lot, and keeping me awake.
I know the situation with you is different, but "unfortunately" it is sometimes true that the things that bother you about other people are rooted in things that bother you about yourself. Particularly some of the thought processes maybe .... Hmm. I don't know. I feel like deleting this ...
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Take care,
Fuzzy