sorry to hear of your familiar dilema. well i am of the thought that i would wonder why you feel that you need to tell your parents while still depandent on them ? esp. since they are so right wingy dingy god fearing folk. from my personal experience telling them just makes them challenge you as they grapple with their dissaproval. When i tried to impose my values of such on my parents they were not shocked nor amused. Then when I got older and realized that I was not gay but a transexual, of course that was less shameful for them but they still did not want to be mentioned when I was on a talk show years later. At this point I am post opt. and happy with who i am and have not even talked with them for 13 years. they brought me into this world and are who they are and i am who i am living and let living. I have always found others with a larger capacity to love me than they seem to. good for you that you know already that you are pan sexual. Took me awhile later to realize that i was not so hetro but pan. live on sister and you do not need to tell them all yet. d